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Mystic Sisters

Mystic Sisters

Date: 2015-02-13
"Hi Mellissa,

Recently I've been having a lot of problems in my life. My wife of 18 years left me for another man, leaving me to look after my 2 sons all alone and to make matters worse I lost my job. Mellissa can u please help me. Will I find a job soon and will my wife come back to us. Thank you"

Mr S

Dear Mr S

Firstly, you need to focus on your job search. Your wife will take her time to return but she won?t stay. She feels the relationship is over. Your sons have you as their only real family right now and need you to be strong, motivated and together. Your entire focus is on your wife. That attitude won?t work. Right now be assertive. I do see a new job in the next 2 months. All the best.

"Dear Mellissa,

I had a student last week, who spoke at length about her great reading with you and how accurate u were with description of her life partner. I wish to ask the same of you, I am divorced 5 years and ok with it. Met someone but it's on and off. What does my future hold with me settling down? Please help"

Ms Single

Hey sugarplum! Give her a hug the next time you see her. I do see your divorce was meant to be. The person that you are seeing on and off is not ready to offer you anything serious. I do see someone completely new. It is indeed time to make peace with your current relationship and focus on you. You are holding on to this current person as he fits all the boxes. But you do need to focus on the true type of relationship you need. A safe, loved, respectful one.

"Hi Mellissa,

I am 35, a single mum with 2 sons aged 4 & 11.We are facing lots of problems. My divorce is not coming to an end. My husband is having an affair for some time now. I met someone about +- 3 years I want to know if things will work out for us?"

Desperately unhappy.

Oh dear! Is the pot calling the kettle black? Unfortunately you are going through this. I do feel your sadness. If you were happy with the person that you are having the affair with, you would not give two hoots about what your husband is doing.

Both him and you need to behave like responsible adults and make that break. The person that you met enjoys being with you. He is certainly not planning a future with you. I do see a new beginning in love next year. Before you start looking for love, look at your children wellbeing. Currently, they are very emotional and feel distressed. Your husband is not willing to leave you or his romance and you do need to confront the situation legally.