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Author: Kasia Yoko
Date: 2014-05-30
"In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing." By Roosevelt

Life is such a crazy roller coaster ride. You have to hold on tight not to be thrown out the cart. So often we think we have it covered and then, CRASH! BAM! We tumble to the ground. Sadly the older we are the more bruised we get and it becomes more difficult to get up.

There is no recipe for happiness. There is no straight path to stability. There are no magic wands, which will grant you your three wishes, and there is no easy way out. Most often it is the sober reality of events that happen out of the blue and unannounced, that destabilise our core.

I have been blessed with the tools to cope well under any circumstances and with the solid support of friends and family, life is rosybut then one shot to the solar plexus and I am down gasping for air, unable to breathe and struggling to comprehend. WTF! What did just happen?

I was taught well to stay out of poop's way. I know how to avoid trouble and walk the straight and narrow but in an attempt to do the right thing and be the right thing, LIFE HAPPENS!

It sounds funny now I am even giggling a little. I mean, it is so simple, no matter how hard we try, no matter how strong our intentions are to live a harmonious life, its not in our control and that's just the way it is.

Isn't it amazing how when 'it' - lets call it 'it' for the lack of a better word - when 'it' happens we invariably feel so alone. So miserably alone, no one and nothing can help us, even though every bit of support helps, it will not take away the fear, the sheer dread of the situation.

In the last couple of days my roller coaster cart came crashing down at 900 miles per hour. Without a warningI must admit I was not holding tight to my safety latch and I was lackadaisical and carefree and it took me by surprise.

Feeling deflated and alone, I turned to my soul mate, my rock, my husband Tomas, stroking my head gently he said, "Understand that you don't always need to be okay about everything in life."

"Think how awful life would be if we lived in a world where bad things would only have happy or neutral reactions. Understand that no matter what you feel, that you do not need to make any decisions now."

"Allow yourself to feel, and respond with forgiveness. Forgiveness for others, and most importantly forgiveness for yourself. Forgiveness does not mean approval, but of letting go so you can move forward."

The sun has set and the rosy pinks have blushed the evening sky this column has been a great therapy for me. I can almost see the light If you are in a dark place don't suffer in silence. Speak to somebody and if not, write it down, it makes a world of difference because we do not have to suffer in silence.