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"I'm as far away as you push me."

"I'm as far away as you push me."

Author: By Kasia Yoko
Date: 2025-09-25

Those words have been circling in my head all week. They hold such truth, a bit of a quiet sorrow. They remind me that the space between us and the people we love is not measured in kilometres, but in silence, neglect, and missed opportunities. It is created when we stop noticing, when we stop checking in, when we assume that someone else will take care of it.

The Covid-19 pandemic revealed this to us in a brutal way. We all remember the lockdowns - the empty streets, the masked faces, the aching distance between family members and friends. For many, that experience did not end when the restrictions lifted. A global study published in The Lancet found that rates of anxiety and depression increased by over 25% in 2020, and we are still living with the aftershocks. Some people slipped into solitude and never truly found their way back. They remain in their own kind of lockdown, not because of government rules, but because of fear, loneliness, or simply a loss of practice in being part of the world.

I think of my own neighbours, of friends who quietly withdrew after Covid, of relatives who no longer come to gatherings because "it's just easier to stay home." How many of us have noticed? How many have reached out? Or do we let the distance grow, telling ourselves they must prefer it that way?

The truth is, we all need each other. Human beings are not designed to live in isolation. Our health, both physical and mental, depends on connection. Checking in on someone is not just an act of kindness-it can be life-saving. A phone call, a knock on the door, a shared cup of tea can remind a person that they are still seen, still valued, still worthy of love.

I have often thought about the quiet power we hold in our everyday lives. We underestimate our influence. We think our circle is too small to matter, but in reality, it is within that circle - our family, our friends, our colleagues, our neighbours - that the greatest impact is made. We do not need to change the whole world; we need only to notice the people right in front of us.

"I'm as far away as you push me." That line is not just a reminder, it is a warning. If we do not reach out, if we do not close the gap, we risk pushing people into a silence that feels final. But when we do take the time-when we step across the distance and show up-we pull people back into life, into love, into belonging.

The distance is never as wide as it seems. Sometimes, it is only the length of a phone call. Sometimes, it is as small as the space between your hand and a neighbour's door. All it takes is a choice: to notice, to care, to reach.